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Post by Kneetroll on May 3, 2006 21:32:36 GMT
Just wondered?  |
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Post by Fassbender Fan on May 4, 2006 17:54:35 GMT
He should but it shouldn't be something he has to do or should do for the wrong reasons. He should do it because he wants to and vice versa
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Post by Kneetroll on May 4, 2006 18:11:46 GMT
Completley agreed. I posted this cos the other day (and this is just ONE example) me and Tom went to the pub with some mates and I thought 'okay, I'll make an effort' cos I wanted to for me as well as for him.
I even styled my hair (I normally just leave it to be floppy or whatever) and I looked okay, but did he even NOTICE!? Not once.
Like once I said *chuckle* I had some new undies I wanted to show him (nothing kinky fellas, just normal underwear) you know what he said?
"Yeah, I wanna show you the new family guy DVD".
For christ's sake what does it take!? lol
I got more compliments off other people that night in the pub than him, including his best friend who noticed my hair! I compliment him if I think he looks better than usual (which is good anyway) but I never, ever get anything bad.
I said it makes me wanna wear baggy t-shirt and scruffy jeans instead of making an effort. He didn't even respond to it he said "oh well".
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Post by matt on May 4, 2006 18:14:34 GMT
Well someone demanded compliments from me then I'd be suspicious that they wanted something.
...New clothes are a big deal? You bought something. You showed him. He bought something. He showed you.
I'm very confused.
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Post by Kneetroll on May 4, 2006 18:18:00 GMT
It works both ways. It's appreciation. A DVD says crap about a person, but making a personal effort for someone shows you like them enough to want to do that.
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Post by Fassbender Fan on May 4, 2006 21:03:36 GMT
I got more compliments off other people that night in the pub than him, including his best friend who noticed my hair! I compliment him if I think he looks better than usual (which is good anyway) but I never, ever get anything bad. I can see Matt's point of view but come on if his best friend can comment on your hair he could at least try and show the slightest bit of interest! Even if he lied, I know you'd prefer it to be genuine but it's the thought driving it you're really looking for. Is it really asking that much? (and that's a genuine question not a sarcastic remark because women understand women men understand men and as far as I can see there's no middle ground) |
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Post by Kneetroll on May 5, 2006 5:06:28 GMT
I can see as well what Matt's saying, I don't want him fawning over me and bowing at my feet, but if it's clear I've made an effort, a simple "you look nice" wouldn't kill him.
As I said, I always compliment him if it's clear he's made an effort cos we're going out or whatever.
My point is Matt, isn't that a guy/girl should always compliment their other half (cos yes, FF, truthful is better) but when it comes to the point where they show as much interest as a bratty little brother would, it's just wrong.
Like I said, it's appreciation. There ain't a person in the world that can deny that they want their other half to think "oh my GOD I cant believe I'm going out with him/her!!" not to think "Yeah they'll do". Making an effort is just one way of attempting to make them think that. There's non-visual sides of it of course, but at face value, a compliment doesn't hurt anyone.
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Post by Fassbender Fan on May 5, 2006 16:02:50 GMT
a compliment doesn't hurt anyone. ...but a lack of them can be hurtful. |
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Post by Kneetroll on May 5, 2006 22:14:39 GMT
Exactly. It doesn't even need to be a compliment about looks (remember, I'm saying this works BOTH ways, guy and girl) but a general compliment, like LISTENING to someone and taking interest, that's also a compliment!
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Post by Casazeal on May 6, 2006 15:43:13 GMT
He should but it shouldn't be something he has to do or should do for the wrong reasons. He should do it because he wants to and vice versa I agree! |
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Post by matt on May 13, 2006 22:18:48 GMT
I'm still very confused.
I blame the fact I have a penis.
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Post by Guinevere on Sept 12, 2006 23:38:15 GMT
Of course and vice versa.
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